Damari

All bullying needs to stop. What will they do about work place bullies and bullying? I was also the only one he treated like this..All he needed to do was be kind, show kindness. I want to bring more awareness to work place bullying in 2016 to help others not have to deal with bullies for bosses. The laws need to change!!! What will they do about work place bullies and bullying, it needs to stop…I was fired 12 days before Christmas…
I use to like people but a bully shot me down! Bosses should lead employees not Bully…Yes not from bullies! What about work place bullies?! Remember bullies come in all shapes and sizes….I was bullied by an adult named Jeff Ursino , my manager at Citibank in Carmel, Ca…after he successfully made me sick with nerves and caused my blood pressure to go up he fired me via UPS 12 days before Christmas while I was out on a workers comp pending case…my family will never forget the pain he caused us….and I haven’t worked since due to all of this.
Jeff Ursino once told me that I couldn’t wear the hats I’d been wearing to work for almost four years with no problem. He said it was company policy yet there was nothing in writing. I called HR and they said there was nothing in the codes about hats. About six weeks later Jeff Ursino decided to tell me that I could wear hats again but only a couple days a week. I asked him what about the policy and he replied ” I’m in control” , it was his way of throwing his weight around, what a bully! He also threatened to fire me for job abandonment if I didn’t show up to work on a day I couldn’t work, my daughter was ill and he was already fully staffed. He put me on the schedule at the last minute to pressure me into working…a Bully at his finest. He also stated that I hadn’t worked on days that I had and I still have a copy of the schedules.
Bullying needs to end and companies need to properly train manages to be leaders not bullies! What will politicians do about it? Nothing! We need to unite and do something about adult bullying and in the work place!
I have two boxes of proof and I did document everything. When I realized that there is actually an Awareness month for anti bullying I decided to tell my story again in hopes of finding an organization that I can help bring light to this also very ugly issue!
What I have mentioned is just a bit of all he did. No one cared or did anything about it. I wrote my leaders, congressmen , senators , mayors, city leaders, the president , attorney general, etc…everyone past the buck. Since then, bullying has come to the forefront and I want to tell my story.
He is a father of 3 sons, still a ” manager” , on the board of trustees for a school district and I can’t help but wonder who he is bullying now.
He had choices and he chose to be unkind, uncaring, not understanding, treated me like crap, ignored what others where doing, focused on me until he ruined me!
ALL BULLIES NEED TO BE STOPPED!!!!! All companies need Bullying training and the manager isn’t always right! Only cowards bully other people! He didn’t care what I was wearing he simply wanted to show who was in control and bully me. The hats didn’t prevent me from doing my job nor did anyone ever complain about them, in fact I got lots of compliments from customers and a couple of his bosses and someone from HR, it’s was great until he showed up as a temporary manager. He just wanted me gone and set out to wrongfully terminate me. He couldn’t even write me up correctly and I have the proof. He couldn’t even fire me correctly as he broke California Labor codes in the process of firing me. He was simply unkind and heartless to me.
Please grow up to be a kind, caring person. Never purposely make someone fear their going to loose their job for putting their daughter first, that’s what he did to me…and yet he is a father.
Time to open their eyes and our leaders and change the laws. Speak the truth state the facts and have your evidence ready! One of the reasons I am doing this is because I have proof, my journal, the forms he used to write me up incorrectly. He was in such a hurry to write me up that the first time he wrote me up he used the wrong form, he used the second warning form. He threatened me with job abandonment yet didn’t know how that law worked. For some reason the universe, my God or what ever you want to believe, had me keep all the evidence. In my journal I wrote daily of what occurred at work, he singled me out. In four and a half years I loved my job 98 percent of the days then he came and ruined not only me but the spirit of that bank branch. He took away causal Friday and tried to take away cookies on Fridays for our customers. He said we all had to only eat in the break room but yet would eat at his desk and not say anything to the pretty blonde when she ate at her station. He took all my family photos down and claimed it was best for my family but allowed others to have their family photos out! A BULLY!!!!please share my story to bring awareness to work place bullying.
The more I read the more I realize he was threatened by me. My reviews didn’t justify what he did. Several times I was asked if I was the manager as he stood next to me. The hat issue was just him being a bully, he ignored what others did and wouldn’t give me credit when it was due to me, he played it down. He snapped his fingers twice, said my name , pointed to the back room and said Damari in the back the very first time he ever addressed me. In the back room he said my reputation precedes me, that upper management had nothing but glowing reports about me. He asked why I thought I do so well and I told him because I love my job. He was a temporary manager, the branch was looking for a full time manager. Jeff Ursino was managing two branches during this process, I was trying to hang in there until we got a new one but he couldn’t wait to fire me. I’m understanding more about bullies these days, it doesn’t make it right but we need to pray for the bully.
That’s was awesome, thank you for caring and reposting. I use his name and the bank and location to keep it real and honest. I have nothing to hide. I use to tell my kids’ if you don’t want grammy to know what you did then don’t do anything you’d be a shamed of because I will tell grammy the truth’ it really helped with their behavior. I once wrote him and asked why he did what he did and I also told him that I hope no one ever treated his family as he had treated mine, but I got no response to my email from him. It’s all true so it’s not slander. Have an awesome day, thank you very much. So sorry about what you went through, hopefully we can get others to come forth and share their stories. I honestly feel that the bully should be called out, if he/she was so proud of their actions then don’t get upset when we share what you’ve done.

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Deborah

Just wanted to say my son gets bullied very badly at school and I feel terrible that there’s nothing I can do. I bought your book and my son was in tears reading it because he goes through very similar things. Great book and thank you for writing it, it will help many children and families.

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Andrew H

There’s this boy in my class that always says he’s going to kill me. I never did anything to him. I don’t want to die. In only 13 and want to be able to grow up someday and get married. I hide from him all the time but its scary because he’s in my 4th hour and he sees me at lunch and picks on me. Help me please.

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Jessica F

High school fat ass, that’s my name too. I just started 10th grade about a month ago, and I’ve stolen my grandfather’s whiskey twice. I don’t know why I can’t be treated like a normal person. I am the same on the inside as everyone else. I love God. I go to church every Sunday and sing in the choir, I do things for God but every night I pray to him that I can go through school tomorrow and not be called “whale girl,” or “fat bitch.” God hasn’t listened yet, but I won’t stop trying. Someday I’ll be OK, I have faith.

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Paul N

I am Paul from South Africa, I want to tell everyone bullying is not just an issue in America. Here in South Africa it’s a big issue. I come from a very poor family and get bullied all the time just because I don’t have name brand clothes or the new gadgets. I’ve dropped out of school for a period of time because the bullying was so bad I could not concentrate. I hope this issue is resolved soon. It is ruining lives.

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Shane R

Hello High School Fat Ass, I wanted to write to you and tell you my story. According to the majority of my school I am a “fat piece of crap.” I have no friends because it’s true, I AM a fat piece of crap. The bullying is so bad that I’m failing most of my classes because I am so scared to even go, I may not even graduate. I have done nothing wrong to others but get treated like this because something I cannot even control. I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and the reason those meds don’t work is because I get so depressed from school that all I do at home is eat junk food, but that’s just a temporary fix. I hope to be better someday, until then I’m in the same boat as you and every one else here suffering from bullying.

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Melanie D

Hi, I’m Melanie from Texas and just wanted to say my best friend just killed herself because she got bullied. I am very sad and would take her place in a second, she was so nice and never said a bad word about anyone. She wanted to be a veterinarian. The worst part is because all of the “cool kids” bullied her, no one got in trouble. Personally, I think every one that made fun of her or called her “fat” just be accused of murder.

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Karen H

I am writing on behalf of my daughter. She came home crying from school multiple times a week and everytime I asked her whats wrong she shut me out. After asking a few other parents I heard it was a bullying issue and tried to confront her about it and I got nothing. I was told about this site from a co-worker and mentioned it to my daughter.  Although it didn’t completely solve her bullying issue, it made her talk to me about it and she told me she was less embarrassed to talk about knowing that every one of these posts are of kids going through the same thing. So I just wanted to say thanks.

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Philip

Greetings from Australia.  I would like to share that I am very over weight and get bullied daily. it is very difficult to accept and like some others on this site I have contemplated physical harm. I looked to rugby to unleash my anger but I also get bullied there for being slow. I want to quit the team and my schooling but I know my parents would never have it and be disappointed in me. What they don’t realize is that I am disappointed in my life, my path, and my bullies. I can never be happy getting called those things, and unless we can stop the bullying I guess I will be unhappy forever.

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Paul K

Everyday I feel like killing myself. The bullying is too much and the pressure to fit in is just unbearable. I have went as far as putting a loaded guns worth of pills in my mouth but was too scared to swallow. Maybe it was a good day? By good I mean better than headbutting my wall and cutting open my forehead like what happend a few weeks ago. I am thankful for websites like this that truly allow people from all likes of the world to discuss thier bullying problems and issues. Sometimes a public forum is better than a psychologist and It’s cheaper too. Thanks High School Fat Ass, in some way I think you saved my life.

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Carla G

Hey guys Im Carla and my dad is a bully to me. He calls me fat ass, and lard butt even when we’re in public. It makes me very sad and depressed and I actually started smoking cigarettes because of it. I can barely make it through my day without crying but I have no where else to go because im only 15. Please help.

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Mike G

My name is Mike and I wanted to share my story.
I was literally minutes away from killing myself from bullying. Knife in one hand and a bottle of pills in the other. I was so tired of getting called a fat ass every day of my life. I wimped out and just stole some liquor out of my dad’s cabinet. I was very sick and hungover the next day and I spent the whole day in bed thinking of ways to change.  I tried alot of things including hard drugs but all it takes is a little dedication. I gave up soda and chips and drank a crap load of water and power ade zeros. Chips turned into kale chips and pork rinds. I am down 80lbs in one year and can actually smile now. I feel for any obese kid, but don’t worry, it can get better.

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